“Follow Through,” “Just spank him,” “You’re the parent/mom” or “Take his toys away”
Those are a few sayings I don’t like. It’s so easy for someone else to tell you hold to handle your kids. But seriously you really think I need to spank my kid till his ass is red and my hand stings? Whatever you can just get bent. Just because I tap his butt you really think I am not doing it right, since it’s not affecting him? I don’t think so. Some kids you can just swat their butt and it’s the end of the world and they behave some need things taken away and some need time out. My oldest I could beat him till his butt was red and my hand hurt and he wouldn’t care. It doesn’t faze him so don’t give me some shit about how I am not doing it right, it just doesn’t work with him and I am not going to beat him to make it work.
Now we get to the taking toys and other things away. ROFL yeah that worked for like a week. Now if you say you are going to take something he says okay and gives it to you and just finds something else but continues to do the same thing he was getting in trouble for. So yeah that one doesn’t work.
Oh I love the one where people say well who’s the parent you are the mom or adult right just make him. Well have you tried to make a 3 year old do anything? That is easier said than done and most times doesn’t work. Like eating my son can recite the rule of what he can’t have like a pro if he doesn’t eat his dinner and it still has no affect on the moment.
So we are left with the follow through. I swear I repeat myself over and over all day long. Stop climbing; jumping off things, or whatever he seems to be doing today, once he has something in his head it’s almost impossible to get his attention somewhere else. This is where the follow through comes into play. I started putting him in time out like on supper nanny. I figure if she can do it with all those families then it can work for us. I am willing to try anything at this point since he is so out of control most of the time. The real problem is when you are in the middle of something and you know the 3 minutes it’s supposed to be to sit is really going to be a 15 minute or more scream fest on his part. So yeah sometimes I don’t follow through and it’s just a threat. Which is bad on me but then at the same time isn’t it one of those times that you need to pick your battles?
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